In today’s times, people feel troubled about being alone. A thought comes to a person’s mind that ‘I must be the worst person, that’s why I’m alone.’ But that’s not true. In today’s world, being alone allows a person to think deeply and achieve a lot.”
A right way to improve yourself is to stay alone. In today’s world, the one who stays alone is the happiest.
I am not saying that being alone means staying away from everyone. The real meaning of being alone is to prepare yourself in such a way that you are enough on your own. Train yourself so strongly that whenever any problem or difficulty comes, you can handle it and overcome it by yourself.
Happiness lies in living together with everyone, but a person feels lonely when they trust someone, when they keep expectations from someone, and at that very moment their trust and expectations break in front of them. That is when a person truly feels alone.
If you look at it, the fault is not with the other person either, because they never told you to trust them or to keep expectations from them. The point here is that somewhere the mistake lies within you, and that’s why you are the one regretting.
This is where the point of being alone or staying alone comes in. At such times, being alone will feel better for you, because you have given so much value to that person who, in reality, is not even worth a penny. But in your eyes, you placed their value so high. If you look closely, their worth or value is not as much as you have made it to be.
Live with everyone, meet people, laugh and joke with them, but never keep expectations from anyone. Expectations are the most useless thing. If you expect from someone and that person is genuine, you may get a good response. But if the person is connected with you only for their own benefit, you will realize it after some time, and by then you will be broken from within. Prepare yourself in such a way that no one has the power to control you. A person gets controlled only when they allow someone else to control them. The one who controls you will make you live according to their terms. But if you learn to control yourself, no one will ever control you, and your value will keep increasing day by day.
When you develop the capability to control yourself, you will start feeling happier day by day. You will see many positive changes within yourself and you will keep improving with time, because you are making efforts to become better. Day by day you will become a better version of yourself. People will start wondering how you have changed so much. You yourself will feel that you are improving every single day because you have shaped yourself according to your own will and controlled yourself on your own terms. The situation that once shook you completely will now make you realize how far you’ve come. You will see that you have become much stronger and better, and you now hold the power to control yourself. You have become an extraordinary person.
At this point, you will feel that you are enough on your own. You have made yourself so strong and better that it no longer matters what others say, think, or try to take advantage of. This is because you are not sitting with expectations from anyone, nor are you dependent on anyone. You now trust yourself and have learned how to control yourself.
Being alone in this world is not a challenge; it is one of the most important paths to improving yourself. It’s a way where you look within yourself and work on becoming better.
In today’s world, being alone is a challenge, and being able to achieve something while staying alone is an even bigger challenge. So, make yourself so strong—so powerful—that tomorrow anyone who thinks of cheating you will have to think ten times, because if they do, the loss will be theirs. You must instill in your mind the thought that you must not just become better, but the best. When you develop this stubborn determination, you will see yourself improving day by day on your own.
“There are some point you need to keep in mind which are given below.”
Increase your self-worth.
Your value will not increase until you increase it in your own eyes. This means you have to raise your own value in your own perspective.
Until you realize within yourself that who you are is enough, how will the world tell you that you are better? First, you have to make yourself better and awaken the mindset within you. Only when you truly believe that you are the best will you start feeling the changes within yourself. Then, try it and you will see — everyone around you will notice and think that you have changed a lot. This is possible only when you make yourself realize that your value in your own eyes is high, and let the world think whatever it wants to think.
Never make yourself free.
Never make yourself free; you should always be doing something. This way, you will never feel loneliness. If there is no work to do, read good books. Always keep one thing firmly in your mind — that you will never allow yourself to accept loneliness and will keep yourself busy with something or the other. Only then will you never feel lonely. This mindset eliminates loneliness. These habits will one day prepare you in such a way that you will step out feeling you don’t need anyone.
Know Yourself
In this world, knowing and recognizing yourself is the greatest skill. People often waste their time trying to know and understand others. They fail to realize that even if they know others, it won’t change them. Look within yourself to see who you truly are and understand what changes are necessary for you. This self-awareness is very important. “Knowing yourself is very important. When a person truly recognizes themselves, they stop expecting from others because they start giving importance to themselves. When a person begins to value themselves, no one else’s opinion matters to them. That’s why always recognize yourself and make yourself valuable. Never remain an option for someone; it is very important to always be a choice.”
Never compare yourself with anyone.
Comparing yourself with anyone is the biggest mistake a person can make. Whatever way you are, always believe that you are improving. You must always instil this thought in your mind. You should never compare yourself to anyone — this should be the main goal of your life. “You should never compare yourself with anyone because God has created everyone differently. If you see something good in someone, it is because of their intention, and if you see something bad, it is also because of their intention. So, correct your own intentions, and you will never feel the need to compare yourself with anyone.
You are not better, you are the best.
There is a psychology in today’s world that you will become the way you think. This means if your thinking is right, the whole universe will stand with you to make you successful. “You should never consider yourself small. You must completely remove from your mind the thought of what the world will think and instead focus on your own thinking. When you change your thinking, you will realize that you are not just better, but the best. Everything in this world, whatever happens, depends entirely on thinking.”
